I love this so much that it actually makes me feel a genuine sense of happiness
I love this so much that it actually makes me feel a genuine sense of happiness
GUYS THE STARS HAVE ALIGNED TO CREATE THIS PERFECTION
This is just too adorbs
So, here’s a thing I’ve seen happen:
- People get really into social justice theory
- and then they read a lot from people who all agree with each other
- and then they assume that everyone in that group agrees
- and then, when they encounter someone in that group who doesn’t think that thing, they don’t know how to deal with them
- or they’re rude and condescending
- Someone who reads a lot of disability theory is excited about the idea of acceptance
- And, in particular, the reasons that mobility equipment is liberating and wonderful
- And they encounter someone who is enduring considerable pain rather than use a wheelchair
- And then they talk at them about how they just need to accept themself already, without listening to where they’re actually coming from
- That is not respectful. It can sometimes be ok to express an opinion or offer advice (emphasis on offer; people can say no to hearing your advice), but it’s not ok to try and run someone else’s life, or to take control of their self image, or related stuff
- Respecting someone has to start with respecting them as people who think for themselves, not trying to make them do what you think self-respecting people do
keep in mind that:
- No matter how much you’ve read, you’ve never been the person you’re talking to
- That goes double if you’re not a member of their group, but it applies even if you are
- Having read a lot of social justice theory, or even being part of that group and having found that it described your experience, does *not* mean that you know better than someone else how they should be living their life
- Don’t try to take people over, and don’t talk down to them
- The last thing marginalized people need is yet another person trying to run over them for their own good. They get that enough already
People are complicated, and you are never the expert on someone else’s life. Reading social justice theory, and even being really insightful about what’s wrong with our culture, does not make you an expert on someone else’s life. Their life is for them to live and make decisions about. Marginalized people are not revolution objects.
You know, if I were a munitions manufacturer I personally would not label my canisters of tear gas with my headquarters’ address.
Like, who exactly am I marketing to? Are the targets going to say, “Ooh, this one’s extra stingy. Let’s put in an order for these when we get ready to retaliate.”
Yeah, never mind. I’d totally including my address on the tear gas canisters, along with an order form and convenient discount coupon for bulk orders.
I honestly think people forget that the church and state are supposed to be separate. Give me one non-religious reason against same sex marriage. One non-religious reason against stem cell research. One non-religious reason against safe abortions. Go ahead.
I’ve been saying this for YEARS.
I think about this a lot.
Conservatives love to forget that religious freedom doesn’t cover only their religion.
This has nothing to do with games and is not a matter of legitimate public interest, but is simply a personal matter. I would hope and request that the games press be respectful of what IS a personal matter, and not news, and not about games. This is explicitly about my private life, which has been regrettably forced into the public and framed by people who pose a threat to my safety and well being as well as that of the people I love. I would hope that the effort people have gone through to dress it up as anything more would not be enough to have those who see it for what it is take the bait.
I am not going to link to, or address anything having to do with the validity of the specific claims made by an angry ex-boyfriend with an axe to grind and a desire to use 4chan as his own personal army. This is not a “she-said” to his “he-said”. The idea that I am required to debunk a manifesto of my sexual past written by an openly malicious ex-boyfriend in order to continue participating in this industry is horrifying, and I won’t do it. It’s a personal matter that never should have been made public, and I don’t want to delve into personal shit, mine or anyone else’s, while saying that people’s love and sex lives are no one’s business. I’m not going to talk about it. I will never talk about it. It is not your goddamned business.
What I *am* going to say is that the proliferation of nude pictures of me, death threats, vandalization, doxxing of my trans friends for having the audacity to converse with me publicly, harassment of friends and family and my friends’ family in addition to TOTALLY UNRELATED PEOPLE, sending my home address around, rape threats, memes about me being a whore, pressures to kill myself, slurs of every variety, fucking debates over what my genitals smell like, vultures trying to make money off of youtube videos about it, all of these things are inexcusable and will continue to happen to women until this culture changes. I’m certainly not the first. I wish I could be the last.
Because I’ve had a small degree of success in a specific subculture, every aspect of my life is suddenly a matter of public concern. Suddenly it’s acceptable to share pictures of my breasts on social media to threaten and punish me. Suddenly I don’t have any right to privacy or basic dignity. Suddenly I don’t get to live out normal parts of life, like going through a bad and ugly breakup in private. I have forfeited this by being a blip in a small community, while those who delight in assailing me hide behind their keyboards and a culture that permits it, beyond reproach.
My life and my body are not public property. No one’s life and body are public property.
Sexuality is one of the most personal, hurtful, and easy things to demonize a woman over, and also has nothing to do with my games. Yet large swaths of the gaming community are either unable or unwilling to separate the two. I’m convinced that my ex chose 4chan as the staging ground for his campaign of harassment and character assassination because he knew this; he knew that someone claiming to be “from the Internet” has shown up at my house once already, and he is counting on the most reviled hubs of our community to live up to their sordid reputations. This is another example of gendered violence, whereby my personal life becomes a means to punish my professional credentials and to try to shame me into giving up my work. I’m still committed to doing my small part to create a world where no woman is at risk of experiencing this. That said, I am thankful that even boards with a reputation for being the most hostile places online have been able to tell the intent behind these threads and banned them outright, seeing the hate speech for what it is, and not-news for what it is.
As much as those leading the charge against me will do mental backflips to make posting pictures of my tits about “ethics”, the real agenda is plain as day if you give it even a moment of sincere critical thought. No one who would terrorize someone and the totally uninvolved people they love in this way on such a massive and public scale could ever honestly claim to be interested in “ethics” of any kind. These kinds of accusations have been levied against any woman of status in any industry, ever. I have been judged because, if you are a woman, you are expected to constantly “prove” yourself, and even mere accusations can somehow undo all the good you’ve done and justify any measure of depraved brutality against you. Meanwhile, I see major support thrown the way of my male colleagues when they are accused of any sort of wrongdoing. Neither of these attitudes is correct, and they are patently unfair and reductive. Nobody exists in a vacuum, and anyone can change and grow into a better person. Heroes and villains don’t exist - just regular boring-ass people with scars and fuckups and moments of brilliance. And every single boring-ass person deserves the space to keep personal matters private and handled outside the shark tank of anonymous internet boards.
Once again, I will not be addressing the specific validity of any statements about my private life. If you have good-faith questions or doubts, I am more than happy to discuss private matters in private, where they belong. But I refuse to be coerced into making my private life or anyone’s private life a matter of public record, and I refuse to be continually emotionally terrorized by people who have long decided to hate me regardless.
I’m looking forward to moving on and getting back to work. To anyone else who has had to deal with this kind of indignity on any scale, you have my undying support and my ear if you ever want to talk to someone who might understand. To the people who support my work and can see this crusade for what it is, thank you from the bottom of my heart. To those people, I love you, I always have, and I always will.
Hadn’t heard about this clusterfuck, but checked it out. As you’d expect, endless reams of slut-shaming posed as morality, combined with the childishly paranoid fantasies that gamers in particular seem so prone to (remember kids, whenever you don’t agree with a review, it must be because they were bought off or have an agenda).
All this to (as the comments proclaim) “protect the game industry.” Because, apparently, it’s so fragile that a lady getting her girl-cooties all over it—what with advocating for diversity and free experimental art games—would be enough to destroy it.
I mean, she’s totally banging all those journalists, because it’s the only logical explanation as to why they care about rampant misogyny now. Obviously, the only thing that could turn these poor men into whipped feminists is the awesome power of Zoe Quinn’s ladyparts.
Can we talk about how Anne Hathaway’s husband Adam Shulman looks a bit like William Shakespeare… who had a wife named Anne Hathaway?
damn the illuminati’s not even trying anymore
I guess you could say that when Anne hath a Will, Anne Hathaway
okay I have to reblog for that pun
That is not a typo.